4 Reasons you Fail
1) You use MotivationMotivation is fleeting. It's an emotion. Sure you might want to hit the gym after after seeing Rocky. You might think you could start your own Meth Lab after watching Breaking Bad, but step back a minute and think about this.
Where's that motivation going to be a week from now at 5 am when it's cold, wet, dark and you've got 5 hours of sleep and need to drive to the gym before work?
Where's that motivation going to be after you've had a long day haven't eaten in eight hours, and you're surrounded by a pizza party at your house.?
Well guess what, The Rocky Theme isn't going to start playing all the sudden to pump you up. You're not motivated right now, that was last week, right now you're stressed, tired, and maybe even depressed. And motivation will almost always lose to RATIONALIZATION.
2) You FailYeah, I know this sounds dumb but keep reading.
When you're teaching yourself a new behavior, you want positive experiences.
You'll be more MOTIVATED from succeeding than failing multiple battles. When training dogs, you always want to end on a positive note and not stress out your dogs and have them discouraged.
Same with people. If you're losing 1-2 lbs a week you'll feel motivated.
If you're not losing weight, not gaining strength or muscle, if you're injuring yourself on top of the work you're putting in you'll most likely give up.
Like the old saying goes "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail."
So, plan. Learn from an experienced personal trainer, a well reviewed fitness book, or whatever source, but make sure you're doing things correctly or you'll fail and give up.
3) Too much, too soonFad diets and fasting diets where you starve yourself for 2 weeks then give back in to old habits or worse.
You only have so much willpower, and you will drain it out quickly if you go too hard and be back to your old self.
Using that much willpower to starve yourself will destroy you in other areas of your life where you won't have the willpower to sustain yourself as well, like not telling your boss off, staying out of opium dens, etc.
Workout too much too soon and burn yourself out or injure yourself. All this will do is discourage you further.
Just the idea of putting too much pressure on yourself and getting overwhelmed can defeat you. It happens all the time. That whole "Go Big, or Go Home" crap ruins so many people from succeeding.
Do things properly and have patience.
4) You rely off othersBlind leading the blind.
There's a quote from some guy named Jesus "They are blind guides, if a blind man leads a blind man, both will both fall in a pit"
I see this all the time. 2 people join the gym together to motivate and train each other.
First of all they give each other bad advice because neither knows what they're doing, at best they're taking the long route to get there.
And almost every time one quits, and the other eventually does too.
"Well, she quit so I can't feel too bad about quitting"
You want to get better, follow one who's already there.
4 Ways to succeed
1) Create mini habitsIt's not about motivation, inspiration, because that just creates procrastination...that's pretty good, I should copyright that.
Seriously though, it's about habits.
Making your bed is a habit, constantly checking your phone is a habit. Good or bad that's what habits are, just things you do.
Same with this. Just do it small. Really small if it's really intimidating
If you just work out for 10 minutes or a few pushups, that's more than before.
You might feel it wasn't enough and be MOTIVATED to do more.
But do something. the more you fear it or have waited to do it the more you know you need to do it and the more you should think of a mini-habit.
Hour work out could be half hour, 5 days a week workout could be 3 days, diet could be just cutting out soda, not eating chips, etc.
Start small then step it up, soon or later you'll have overcome your fear and not be afraid anymore.
Unless you're the type that like to do it big, but if you are make sure to-
2) Be around people that are already doing itTalk to people at the gym, people want to give advice and help, they love it.
It's not like those stupid commercials where FIT PEOPLE are keeping secrets on how to get in shape. Fit people are not the Illuminati, they want to talk and give advice.
In fact, it's often harder to get them to shut up, but that's another issue all together.
The main takeaway is you'll have constant support, with people who are into the same goals and share your desired outlook. You'll feel like that corny CHEERS show where everyone knows your name.
But never forget, you can only rely off yourself. Let others inspire and help, but it's ultimately up to you.
3) Be Prepared to Fail
It's a new habit, you're most likely going to have points where you give into temptations, where you get frustrated with a week or 2 of no progress, just feel lazy and don't work out. It happens.
Don't let that stop you COMPLETELY. You only fail when you just give up. So you messed up, it makes you even better. Anybody can just keep doing something when it's easy, those that push past the hard parts are the ones that succeed.
Think of any biopic you've ever watched, was it just success after success? No! That's boring. Your struggle is it's own story, so think of your disappointments at the exciting parts of the story when you tell it later on in life.
4) Visualize Success
I don't mean just be a dreamer, but do dream. Why do you really want a six pack? Why do you really want to fit into those jeans again? Why do you really want to be stronger?
Just to be healthy, just to feel good about yourself? Boring!
Maybe you want to shock everyone when you go back home to visit for Christmas. Maybe you want to be able to keep up with your kids. Maybe you want revenge on your ex that stalks you on Facebook.
Whatever it is, just dig deep and find out why you really want this and then visualize having it. How great would it be?
Hopefully this helped some. Some may sound regurgitated, but if you hit you right way maybe something you've heard a hundred times finally makes sense. I know from tons of experience about setting new habits and going from weak and out of shape into being fit.
Because when it comes down to it, it's not about RESOLUTIONS, it's about REVOLUTIONS.