STOP DOING THIS
Don't talk about your goalsDoing that gives you a false sense of accomplishment and annoys your friends.
Quit looking for new information on how to get resultsThere's nothing new to doing what you need to do. Don't reinvent the wheel. It's all common knowledge.
Don't complainGain weight easy? Hard to put on muscle? Does that mean it's impossible? Work harder. Was it hard for you to go to work one day because of traffic? Did you just not show up?
Don't take things for grantedThink about all the business that were huge and now are gone. Think about the people in high school that were popular and now are nothing. Think about the A-list actors from the a decade ago that can hardly get a decent role on a TV show. Did you get in shape but then started to gain weight. Happens all the time. Did you get cocky? Did you start to slide because you thought you could get away with that extra bagel?
Don't shop for groceries or go to restaurants hungryYou crave empty carbs been you're hungry. You'll buy Red Baron pizzas at the store, or eat 2 baskets full of corn chips or bread sticks. Chips make hips and rolls make rolls.
Don't look for an easy way to get resultsThere is none. If there was, everyone would have already accomplished it.
START DOING THIS
Track what you're eatingTrack your exercises. Blog, journal it, track it. If you're not, you obviously don't care enough and deserve to get there.
Be happy that it's hard to be in shapeIf it was easy, everyone would look great. Personally, I'd hate that, I would have to be judged off my personality and I would never survive.
Recognize your bad habits.Bad habits don't immediately give you bad results. If ice cream immediately upped your body fat by 15% and gave you type 2 diabetes you'd stop eating (I hope).
It's the little things that get you, because they're little and you let them slide. Back pain, body fat, high blood pressure, bad relationships, low wages, everything bad in life is from your bad habits.
Prove to yourself who's in controlI give up things to show myself who's in charge. I can't live with the fact that anything could possibly have control over me. Maybe it's because I have a history of addicts in my family, but I can't live without knowing I have control.
Stay away from bad environmentsIt's easy to eat healthy when I"m home because I don't have junk food around at all. At my grandmas house it's harder to make those choices.
Recognize your successesSo many of you are so successful in areas of your life but can't do something so simple that you want to do? Why? Think about how good you are at other things, how you did that, and how you could apply that to your fitness goals?
No one is going to help youEveryone is too worried about the little dilemmas in their life to waste their time thinking about what you're doing. Are you thinking about their aspirations right now, or are you concerned with your own?
Get rid of loser friends and people that aren't developing themselvesEliminate bad influences from your life, they don't want you around anyway. If you stop drinking you won't want to be around your drinking buddies, and they definitely don't want a sober person around. If you eat healthy, people who eat shit don't want you around reminding them of how bad their life choices are.
Negative people and bad influences are not so transparentThey're hidden in your life and use subtlety to throw you off base. Think hard on who they are, and they'll eventually reveal themselves. Just like they'll slowly get you off track, not just push you off the rails in a few single meetings.
"That's too hard. It's easy for her. Wish my family was rich. That could never happen. Easy for them to say. If I had time and money I could do that." People who say things like that are friends you need to delete.